Thomas Marshall |
When our pediatrician visited us in the hospital she noted that Thomas did not have a red light reflex when she shined a light into his eye. You know the red eye that shows up in pictures? That is a reflection of the vascularization in the back of your eye. If you don't have that it spells trouble.
A developmental specialist from the NICU examined him and told us he had no visual response. We were quite simply crushed. However, during her exam she said, "Mom, Please call out to Thomas." So I did and he practically lunged as he turned to the sound of my voice. This was an indication that our Thomas was in there and he knew what was going on. After the parade of smiling, nervous doctors had thoroughly exhausted us, Thomas himself gave us hope in that small gesture.
Later we stood outside of my hospital room and listened to Thomas scream while his eyes were examined by Pediatric Ophthalmologic fellows. That is the most helpless feeling. As a new parent, it was just anguish to hear the baby I had waited so long for scream like that, and be powerless to help him. After this heartrending eye examination was over, we were given an appointment at the Eye Center at the Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh. We didn't even get to go home from the hospital with our new baby. It was straight to another hospital.
At the eye center, Tom had an examination and an ultrasound of his eyes. Dr. Leann Lope, his Pediatric Ophthalmologist informed us that she believed that Thomas had detached retinas and told us we needed to see a retinal surgeon ASAP.
So when Thomas was five-days-old we took him to a retinal surgeon in Pittsburgh. We were told that Thomas has bilateral (both eyes) detached retinas and would most likely be blind. This doctor gave us the best possible gift when he told us we should go to see Dr. Capone, an expert in the field of infant retinal surgery. We waited on pins and needles for him to say where this surgeon was located. When he said Royal Oak Michigan I was flooded with hope and relief. This was possible! My best friend lives just outside of Detroit and Royal Oak is also a suburb. Coincidences like this don't just happen.
We were very lucky that my friend and her fiance opened their home to us. Can you imagine that call? Can I come stay with you and your fiance and, oh yeah, I'm bringing my my husband and my two-week-old infant?
We stayed with them six times during Thomas' first eight months. Through five vitrectomy surgeries to reattach the retinas and once where they did not end up doing a surgery. We have been extraordinarily blessed because Tom has almost full retinal attachment in his right eye and a small attachment in his left eye. By the spring of 2010, we could see the red light reflex in his eye in pictures. It was so exciting!
Thomas, Summer of 2009 |
Now don't get me wrong, my son is still considered blind but he is learning to use the bit of vision he has to make his life easier. Every day we are teaching him the blindness skills he needs to survive and thrive in a sighted world.
My job is to get Thomas what he needs to be the amazing man I know he is. I created this blog to share that journey with you.
I just stumbled on your post because I received an email through the Yahoo Group BVI Parents. So, I decided to read your blog.
ReplyDeleteSo, interesting. I am literally sitting in a hotel room on my way to Royal Oak, MI because our son, Micah, who is 3 will be having retinal surgery on both eyes this week. We have seen Dr. Capone about 4 times (this will be our 5th) since last July. This is for both our 3 year old and our 7 month old. Both have Familial Exudative VitreoRetinopathy. Basically its a progressive genetic eye disease that affects the retinas.
Dr. Capone is absolutely wonderful and as you said always keeps your expectations and emotions in check at the same time though he always speaks to you the way he would want to be spoken to as a parent.
Our son has no light perception in his left eye and only light perception in his right eye. This will actually be his first eye surgery. It is being done to preserve the vision he has and "possibly" give him some more. If we do nothing, the disease will take all of his sight due to scar tissue in the vitreous that is pulling on the retinas.
I was encouraged to read your blog and know that we are not alone.
Laura
Wow. I can so relate to that scary moment of no red eye reflection...the fear of wondering for days what this means for your sweet baby, the endless trips to the eye surgeon...
ReplyDeletenormal life seems to vanish but the real gift in all of it that has come to me is gratitude.
This week my baby Elsa tried to pick up a string from the dirty livingroom floor and I was elated! The gratitude for every milestone. Each one a special gift! Best wishes to you and Thomas. I will be following your journey together!
Holly @ www.highway59.blogspot.com
I am so glad you have both found my blog. It's so rare to have these type of eye problems that it can make you feel so isolated. The lack of information for parents was really hard for me. I hope that by sharing Tom's story, I can make another family feel less alone and give hope to people.
ReplyDeleteHow wonderful for your Elsa to pick up a string! It is amazing what can be done for our kids today. We are very luck that help is out there.
Good luck Laura! Dr. Capone is amazing. You are in good hands. Tom's eye condition sounds very similar but they actually tested Tom for Norrie's disease and it came back negative. Right now they are saying he has persistent fetal vasculature syndrome but we are going through additional genetic testing here in Pittsburgh.
Thanks for reading my blog. I loved hearing from you!!!
Oh how I wish I had known ppl like all of us on here and BVI groups 6 years ago. My blog about my daughter says SOO many similar things. No red eye, her screaming while she was being examined (they used the infant speculums, I'm not sure I spelled that correctly) not being able to go home. My daughter is now 6 and we still have surgeries and she's still visually impaired and some days are hard. But most days we can just sit and enjoy her for her. It's the little things you'll never forget, picking up strings :) I cried when my daughter saw bubbles for the first time. At 18 months old she even ate a screw! (don't worry she was fine) Let's just say mommy never hung curtains around her again.....
ReplyDeleteI'm so glad you let us at BVI parents know about your blog!
hi jessica finally i have found someone to whom i can relate to... my son is suffering from congenital glaucoma by birth.. he was operated when he was only eight days old.. it was avery tough and yet it is.. my son is two months old now.. the doctor has given us so many hopes.. i hope he grows up strong n wise to see the shining bright world.. many best wishes for baby marshall..:) can i have your email id please.. i need to share things with you.. that would be helpful in the recovery of my baby thank you so much for sharing your story....
ReplyDeleteHi Sana: Please leave your email in a comment and I will email you. I would love to chat. Congrats on your new baby!
ReplyDeleteWe were in Michigan a month or so ago for a FEVR conference and will be in MI again in Aug for Jake's exam under anesthesia.
ReplyDeleteWow Jessica, the internet is a great thing. I am in Australia and my daughter now nearly 10. All the stories above are similar to my experiences, yet my daughter also has micropthalmia (small eyes). But she had severe glaucoma, lots of vitrectomies, a molteno implant (a drainage implant). She has also never been on the growth percentile and at nearly 10 (next month) still only weighs 16.5kg's. Growth hormone has been offered to us but I think if she had of had a g tube early on and pumped her full of food she would have grown more... who really knows! But she eats not much more than a squirrel and actually along our 'blindness' journey her eating was a big hiccup that caused more anxiety as I were not expecting that to be a difficulty. Like you it is a rare thing, but still at this stage does not seem to be in a syndrome, sometimes I wish it would be so I could find others in the same boat. And at birth it was the same, every medical examination... small head, low hung ears, too many birth marks, a scar on her ear, a scar running down her nose (so small its like a piece of hair), enough that the paed announced 'the prognosis for this child is not good'. And after all that scary stuff we have a beautiful little cherub who we would not trade in for the world, and amazes us everyday. Just amazing this technological world and amazing for our special kids who will use it to the best of their advantages! Thanks for your blogs (I found you on the family connect page). Best wishes Nicole x
ReplyDeleteHi Jessica. I just wanted to share that my daughter is 8 yrs old and has bilateral PFVS. We also travel from Pittsburgh to Royal Oak to see Dr. Trese. What a wonderful doctor he is!! My daughter's condition has affected both the front and back of both of her eyes and she is completely blind with the possibility of light perception in her left eye. Due to other conditions that she has she is unable to speak and so we do not know for sure what she actually sees. She attends the Western PA School for Blind Children and is doing wonderfully. If you would like to email for more information you can do so at tmantini@aol.com. Hang in there! There will certainly be rough times but will all be overshadowed by the wonderful things your beautiful son will do and teach you!
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You are a beautiful mother with an amazing little boy. Thank you for sharing your story. Sasha from Australia :)
ReplyDeleteThank you for your blog. You have a wonderful son and are very caring parents. We happened upon your site while trying to find iPad apps for our son who was born 17 weeks early and suffers from stage 5 ROP, and only has light perception in one eye. You can read up on Gabriel at www.trells.com
ReplyDeleteAs parents with special needs child, our hearts and prayers are with you and Thomas. My our Father in Heaven continue to bless you and your family.
Erica & Joseph (Utah)
Hi- Thank you for your kind words. Your little guy is so cute. I'm glad you started a blog to share your son's journey. I think it's a great way to keep family and friends informed and a good opportunity to teach them about your child.
DeleteBest of luck to you and your family.
YOUR KID IS BEAUTIFUL, CONGRATULATIONS!
ReplyDeleteHi! I just wanted to thank you for sharing you very inspiring story about your precious little guy Thomas!! My Mum in Australia found your site when she was looking for useful toys and apps for my little girl. I live in Canada with my husband and we had our first baby in January of this year. Everything seemed to be going on quite normally in the beginning, but then around 5 months we noticed she wasn't close to hitting some of her milestones. We also had noticed she had trouble focussing and her eyes would move side to side and up and down a lot of the time. She also seemed to sleep way more than other babies.Since about that time we have been going down a road full of uncertainty, worry, anxiety and shock I think. Lots of tests, doctors visits, and WAITING! Also knowing what to say to people when they ask how she's doing is always a tricky one. What's worse is having every person you see tell us that she looks tired or is ready for a nap, when that's not the case at all...she just doesn't have the sparky look of other babies. I too stopped going out and about as much, or being around other new mums. I do think as I'm coming to terms with things that I am getting better though.
ReplyDeleteWe still have no definite diagnosis, nor any real direction for what is install for us down the line, but what we do know is that we have really been blessed with the most special little girl who is so contented and happy day to day. We wouldn't change her for the world.
She too has a smaller than average head size which is more obvious now that her body is growing bigger. She also has fairly low muscle tone. We are still no more certain to what this all means, nor do we know what she can and can't see at this point. In the new year we will be running more tests on her which will hopefully lead us to some sort of answer. In the meantime we've been set up with a blind/ low-vision intervention program as well as specialised children's centre. We are confident that we are going to get the help we need from both of these services.
We are very pleased to say that we have seen improvements and growth in our little lady in the last month....things that might be very minor developments for other kids, but are huge strides for her. We've been told to take this as a very encouraging sign to what we should be able to expect with her in the next couple of years. My husband and I ultimately just want her to be happy within herself, and so far we seem to be getting that right.
Anyway, thanks again for sharing your story. You have given me that bit of strength I needed to keep going forward.
HI- I'm so glad you found this site and that it is helping you. I know I needed this type of information when Tommy was born and I couldn't find it. That's why I write it! And I love sharing Tom's story with everyone and helping people learn more about the potential all blind children possess.
DeleteYou have to read this blog - http://jennohara-theblindspot.blogspot.com/
They are in Canada too and I bet Jenn would be a good resource for you. Her daughter is undiagnosed as well and had some similar conditions but is doing really well.
Best of luck to you and your daughter,
Jessica
Jessica,
ReplyDeleteI stumbled across your blog thanks to wonderbaby.org. Your family's story is very similar to ours. My son was also born with PFVS. He also had surgery to anchor his retina in his right eye. Greyson's left eye also is small and has no vision. He wears a prosthesis in this eye.
Greyson does have Norrie's disease though. I never hear of others with PFVS! I was actually excited when I found your blog because your child is like mine!
Reading about all the things Tommy is doing just boosts my spirits! Greyson is almost three and is not your typical child. I know that he will do things all in his own time but hearing it from another parent with a child so similar is great! Thank you for sharing your story!
Chelsea
Hi Chelsea,
DeleteSo glad you found us! There aren't many kids with bilateralPHPV/Norries so it is exciting to meet other kids and their parents.
Tom is doing things in his own timetable but he is doing new things every day. Please let me know if you would like to share your story in a guest post. I have featured several children who are blind but never anyone with a story similar to Tom's.
My child Aedam is also having retinal detachments and we have the same case as of Thomas and i am glad to hear about Thomas' story.I am also worried of my son's future.Aedam is our first and only child as of now.He is 3yrs. old.I don't know how to handle him.I'm just hoping and praying that God will answer the desires of our heart.Thank you for sharing your story it lightens us. God bless!!!!
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